This is a very touchy subject and one that is
looked at with great respect and care.
For those that have or are contemplating suicide,
please share your thoughts and pain with a professional. Please know that the only guarantee in life
is change. Often the greatest times of
stress are pathways leading to the greatest rewards in life. We have often heard it said that....”Suicide
is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” This is a powerful statement. Death is certainly permanent and suicidal
thoughts are certainly temporary (much to the sufferer’s denial). We have to question, however, the word
“solution”. How is suicide a solution?
For those that are shattered by loved ones contemplating
suicide, it is imperative that you do not own someone elses’ thoughts or
decisions. You, in no way, are
responsible for these thoughts or actions.
We have no control over other people’s choices. The best we can do it to ensure them that we
are there to offer love, compassion and whatever we can offer to assist on the
road to recovery.
Our brain is an integral part of our human
vehicle-- no different that our lungs or heart.
Ignoring a heart attack will not void the damage an attack may cause. Ignoring suicidal thoughts will not create a
solution.
Conditions in life can accelerate to the
point of feeling that there seems to be no way out of the current challenging
circumstances. For you and me, we can
rationalize and find that glimmer of hope that assists in turning our point of
view from hopeless to hopeful. Individuals
that are suicidal believe that they are doing family members a service by
ending their lives. They feel their
situations are hopeless and that no one cares.
They do not understand that the next turn in the road can move them into
a completely new and different direction.
Reassurance that you
are there to listen, that you care and that you want them to choose life is
important. Do not be shocked by what you
hear and do not judge. Irrational
thoughts cannot be rationalized.
If you feel the situation is an emergency,
deal with it as such.
If a loved one lost control of their
vehicle due to speed and you had previously warned them that speed kills, would
you feel responsible for this accident? ......of
course not. Why then, if you have been
supporting someone who has had suicidal tendencies and they have lost their
battle, should you feel responsible for this loss? A terrible loss, yes but certainly not your
responsibility.
As you care for others, be sure to care for
yourself. Always stay within your
personal limits if someone is threatening you with suicide and be sure to talk
to someone. There are many help lines
and groups to assist you in sharing your feelings and experiences.
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