In some way, we are
influenced by those we meet along life’s journey, and in particular, we are
highly influenced by our parents and family members. If we think about how we were brought up, we probably
note that many of the things that our parents taught us have been carried
forward and we are still utilizing some of them today.
It can work quite the
opposite as well. Because of some of the
ways we were influenced we are determined NOT to bring forward some of these
influences. In some cases we were
influenced by our parents in a very challenging way (I refuse to use the word “negative”)
and now because of these, we teach or influence our children differently. We should be thankful that we have learned
from these lessons as our children benefit from these.
In many cases the
foundation of our attitude and belief structures were put in place in our
formative years and we have hopefully adapt these throughout our lives. If we were loved and felt warmth and
compassion from our parents, most likely we are comfortable in our own
skin. We move forward with confidence
and with fewer internal challenges than some others who may have experienced little
or no love and affection. It is
important to remember though that love and affection can be shown in many
different ways however.
There are conflicting
articles as to the most impressionable years of a child’s development – some
say the first five years, some say the first seven years and yet others same
from six to 14. Apparently, all years
are important to provide a positive influence on our children and their
development.
Do we teach our
children through fear or do we teach them through love? This question may seem ridiculous to most of
us but certainly one that needs to be contemplated. What example are we setting?
So many parents teach
their children to engage their minds but equally important, are we teaching
them to engage their hearts? If they
learn to respect and love themselves, they will be able to love and respect
others.
“It is easier to build
strong children than to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglass
Even though we are
influenced by our upbringing, when we reach the age of self awareness, we are
free to choose and mold our own personal responses to life. We are free to change any aspect of ourselves
and nothing from our past has to be adopted as our own. If our upbringing was less than ideal, we can
accept our past as that (our past) and we can move forward and leave it where
it belongs, in the past.
Once we reach the
stage of self awareness we realize that we are responsible for whom we are. No one has control over us unless we hand
over that control to them. Sometimes we just
need to look back to see and understand what took place and by doing so, we realize
that we can make any change we want to.
Yes, our parents have
an influence and can provide us with a good foundation but with self awareness
if that foundation makes you feel less than perfect, we have the choice of
pouring new footings and building your own foundation.
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