Toxic Relationship

Toxic relationships that just seem to drain you of your virtues and essence do not have to be forever. If you find yourself in a relationship that is damaging you emotionally and perhaps even physically, why would you feel that you must stay? You must examine the “why” behind this thinking. You must be truthful to yourself. Is the relationship worth being infuriated, emotionally drained or int...imidated? Have you physically been pushed around? Even just one physical encounter is unacceptable.

Relationships can produce unhealthy conditions that must be discarded to preserve your inner self. In many instances, those being crushed by hurtful remarks or physical control are too afraid or not confident enough to walk away. The idea of being alone or financially burdened or even the fear of retaliation jails some people in stagnant or violent relationships. Some individuals remain because they feel they deserve to be punished.

You have to ask yourself, “Am I happy?”. Once again be honest with your response. If the answer is no, take your questioning a little further. Am I unhappy due to my expectations of my partner or am I unhappy due to abnormal conditions in my relationship?

Perhaps there are children subject to these abnormal occurrences. Do they watch violence or depression due to circumstance? Do they believe that abuse, either physical or mental, is normal in relationships due to their experiences? Do not allow these enormous atrocities to weigh heavily on these innocent lives.

These little ones when subject to this level of animosity and hatred will carefully decipher the words being used and the actions being taken on a totally different level than you or I do. You are providing these little minds with information and teaching them a distorted concept of right, wrong and “normal”. If you raise them under adverse conditions and they see you infuriated, stressed, depressed on a regular basis, you are embedding these conditions as “normal” for their futures.

If the relationship is beyond healing or if you remain in this relationship for your children, perhaps it is time to review your priorities. If you are being verbally abused or physically assaulted, love yourself enough to step away. You and your family deserve to be happy.

Never give up on life, regardless of what the mind infers. Know that if you are willing to take the first step to help yourself, regardless of how painful that first step is, the possibilities are endless. Any thoughts of retribution or denial or even thoughts of self-worthlessness will need to be examined, perhaps with a professional.

Stand tall and make your move. Do not give up or resort to permanent solutions for temporary conditions. There is a future that is awaiting you, but before you can move forward, you have to let go of the past.

You are equipped with great strength and have a full reservoir of love and happiness reserved in “your name”. Move out of illusion and into reality. Believe you can do it. Happiness comes from within and the door is wide open. Walk through. Do not surrender yourself. You were born to soar! Allow this to happen.

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MERCURY RETROGRADE February 6, 2014 - ASTROLOGY

Mercury goes retrograde 3 to 4 times each year.  Mercury will be going retrograde from February 6  through February 28, 2014.  It will moves through the sign of Pisces and then into Aquarius.  It is suggested that Mercury retrograde will affect those individuals that were born with Mercury retrograde in their Birth Charts more than those who were born with it direct. 

Make note of the house placement of Mercury in your horoscope.  Also note if it conjuncts any planet or angle during its motion.  The sign it is in during this time will be reflective of mental adjustments aligned with the sign where it is located in your Natal chart.  It may also affect the area of life dictated by the house position.  You must also take into account the placement of Mercury’s in your Natal chart--its house position and the aspects to it.  Much of what your Natal chart suggests may be area’s that will be affected by Mercury’s transit.

Mercury retrograde is not a huge life-changing event; however, it deserves mention due to the fact that Mercury is associated with the workings of the mind.  As Mercury begins to slow down or at least appear to slow down, some individuals experience a slowing of daily affairs and one will have time to reflect and contemplate life’s events.  It is considered a chance to go over old material that you may have ignored or left buried.  You may review decisions or try to make decisions but remember that quite often the best laid plans go astray during the retrograde motion.  It is best to wait until Mercury has completed its retrograde cycle before you move forward in the direction you choose.  It seems that the odds of things working well are often greater after Mercury goes direct.

It is suggested that one remains flexible during times of Mercury retrograde and not to sign any agreements or written documents.  There is a better success rate after retrograde motion is finalized.  If Mercury is not making contacts with Natal planets or is not very poorly aspected in the Birth chart, you need not worry as things remain relatively tame and little interferes will occur with plans. 

This is a time of self-study.  This is a time to reflect on who you are and what steps you might take to improve your self image.  Often individuals have issues return from the past; some lesson not quite learned or a concept failed.  It is now revisiting to give you the opportunity to finish that which needs to be completed.  You may now have the opportunity to make alternate plans, changes in direction, correct judgement calls or to get back on course after an errant turn.  These opportunities will present themselves when Mercury is direct in motion again.

It suggests that people and personal ideas are often the key to moving forward in a sound direction.  Some experience insights on alternate levels that propel them forward in a new direction.  In most cases unless highly afflicted (in the Natal chart and afflicted in the transit through connection with planets or angles), it is usually not a time to be overly concerned as very little may actually happen. 

Use this time to activate your mental process as the mental process is stimulated.  This could be the time that you discover hidden channels especially when Mercury moves through Pisces from the February 6 to February 13, 2014. 

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Spirit Guides

On occasion, do you feel as though someone is watching over you especially when you are deeply immersed in times of tribulations?  Have you ever been through a traumatic period in life when there appears to be no hope, and then suddenly, you feel relieved as if someone has taken part of the weight off of your shoulders?  These turbulent times are necessary ingredients to your ongoing growth and have been put in place to provide you with tests for your perseverance, patience, compassion, strength, etc.  When you have invested long periods of time working through these events and you get to that point where you feel there is nothing more you can do, this is when you will uncover the assistance you require.

You are never alone, no matter how alone you may feel.  When life seems desperate and there is no way around a barrier, there is always someone right over your shoulder ready to assist you in ways that enhance spiritual development.  It is not all about making it through the trauma with ease.  It is about lessons well learned in the process.  Spirit guides are always at your side and will assist you in taking the correct decisive action, or making accurate judgement calls.  They will push you in the direction that will best promote not only healing but will aid you in gaining inner strength and inner confidence.

Sometimes upon initial receipt of this guidance, you may wonder why you feel that this is your best option.  It may not even make sense logically although it will feel right.  This is the starting point; the change in direction.  Remember, that any transition period (even for the better) encompasses the most difficult of times.  As you move forward in your judgement call or new direction, it may be a little frightening at first, as it is new and you are traveling uncharted territory.  Something tells you to forge ahead and you are provided with confidence although you may not feel it is warranted.   Understand that without the notion of confidence which comes to you from the other side, you would never make the necessary adjustments and you would stagnate to the point of total disillusionment and eventually falter with no clear path and no decisive action.  You would be lost in doubt.

Although the path at times is difficult and unclear, believe in the little voice that says you are on the right path and you are making the right decision.  Your guides can always be counted on.  They are with you every step of the way, always at your proverbial finger tips.  Know this and understand that you are never alone through life’s drama, and you will always make your way through the obstruction.  There is always an answer.  You are never to give up.  You must have faith and believe that you will find the answer; you will return to your life’s more enjoyable path.  You have a mission.  Only you can stand in your way.  Listen to the guidance that is there, you need only choose to listen.  It is then that you will move beyond that barrier and you will uncover the happiness and love that is everyone’s right.  There are no exceptions!  Believe, have confidence and be open to the quiet voice that speaks to you.   

               

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Neptune and Jupiter in Astrology

Today, we are focusing on the combination of the two planets Neptune and Jupiter.  To uncover any relationship between these two planets, input your birth information into any reputable astrological site to create your Chart diagram.  Check to see if there are any connections between these two giants in your horoscope.  We will not be defining any particular aspect between these two planets, but will be defining the positive attributes when they are conjoined in a Chart.

Jupiter’s nature is to expand and open up areas that can lead to spiritual growth, as well as the development of knowledge that can promote a greater understanding into spiritual philosophies.  Jupiter is all about higher learning and often promotes good luck and good fortune in the areas touched by it in the Chart and it areas that are ruled by it in the Chart.

Neptune when operating in its higher octave deals directly with mysticism and spiritual connections.  It promotes intuitive perception, psychic inclinations and operates from a very high source-- connecting with the spiritual plane.  Neptune will stimulate the imagination and inspires you in the area it is located in the Birth Chart as well as the area it rules.

On the positive side, which is the focus of this post, when together in positive aspect, Neptune and Jupiter often produce magical, mystical experiences on very high levels.  There is wonderment in the making and an innate understanding of the workings of the intangible.  There are strong leanings towards the God Principle and a deep connection with this approach to life, as there are those individuals that would suggest that this belief structure is unsound. 

To individuals with this connection in their Chart, these principles are quite sound and are one of the strongest foundation points in their life.  They can yield to these principles and can always lean on them in times of challenge.  The mind and actual living conditions are cemented in the higher realms of being and operate through mystical channels.  These connections are often dormant in those that choose a more material approach to life.

The individuals with this connection believe that by following their mystical inclinations, they will help alter the world, perhaps in small increments, but within a force that guides to new and unexplored dimensions of reality. They believe that as a force, they can transcend the world to greater consciousness and help mold a more altruistic environment for all mankind to live in.

As expressed earlier, this segment applies to those with these combinations strong in their Charts and in good connection with other planets, but the overall affect of any aspect configuration involving these two planetary links can bring most individuals to higher principled realms of existence.

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RELATIONSHIPS THAT MATTER

If you are in a relationship that holds special significance in your life and the road is under construction, the route is twisted and you are not sure which way to turn, you need to listen to the inner voice of reason without ego interruption.  The voice within that speaks about turmoil and obstruction without little chance of rectification is the ego’s intervention.  The ego thrives on uncertainty and anguish and will intentionally play havoc with your emotions.  Ego will try to filter your thoughts.  It can be relentless in its pursuit, as control is its prime objective which is at any cost.

If you listen a little more intensely and allow your mind to pass by the ego’s inference that is telling you something is wrong within the relationship, you can begin to find a place of solace where the ego’s intent cannot penetrate.  You may ask the question “What can I do to make this meaningful relationship survive the onslaught of interference that seems to be prevailing at the moment?”  You must approach with the understanding that it is up to you to carry out this intervention.  Never expecting the other to alter or make changes for you, because this is what true love is.  You will always find a solution and actually a very simple one to help you to accept this partner for who they truly are.  Remember, we are referring to a relationship that has true meaning with a loving partner, a partner who is not abusive, one who is not stifling the relationship, one who is not reducing you to a dull reflection of self.

The mind tends to dig deep for answers to relinquish internal dilemmas and outside obstructions that sometimes come into our lives but only “appear” to be an immovable object.  The answer is truly simple, but before we go into this explanation it is suggested that you view your current life’s conditions and the environment you are living in.  If you are honest and look at the big picture, you will probably find that you have been living under conditions that are stressful and outside influences are the cause behind what is taking place in your world now.

If life tables the occasional difficulty, we undoubted fight through the circumstance without much attention.  However, when life tables several issues or conditions, your response to your current condition can create stressful and you can allow yourself to be overwhelmed. 

Take a good look around you and see what is going on.  There are probably many conditions that you are responding to in a stressful way, and as a result of your response, you are deeply affected on one level or another.  Step back and have an honest look.

The issue is not between you and your partner.  You and your partner love one another, thought at times it is hard to recognize.  The love is deep and persevering and you feel that although life is stressful and your actions sometimes infiltrate your partner’s well-being, you honestly mean no harm.  It is just a release valve and unfortunately, your partner takes some of your steam.  This is not acceptable, because there are other avenues of release that can be pursued.  Consider changing your eating habits, developing a healthy exercise routine, practice meditation and asking the higher forces for assistance.

The answer to your problem has already been disclosed, or at least a major part of its source.  Now what can you do to make things better?  As previously stated, it is simple.  Show your partner that you love them.  Be expressive in your love.  Sit close together, hold hands, and talk openly about how you feel without resentment and blame.  Your world is a reflection of what takes place within and this is the starting point.  Make inner adjustments to your being, to your attitude toward life and your expectations of what you think life holds for you and your partner.  Raise your expectation level a degree or two, and reflect.  You love each other.  This you truly do not question.  Be sure to show it!

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Astrology's Composite Charts

Astrology's Composite Charts are prepared when people meet and form a relationship - romantic, business, friendship, or otherwise. The Composite Chart is (without being technical) a combination of the creators of the union.....a new entity resulting from this union. This Chart will provides clues to the nature and function of this new entity (relationship).