Making that Decision

How often do we reach a fork in the road and have to deal with some challenge which through our own attitude puts us under a lot of pressure?  Many times, we neither know which way to turn nor what is actually the right thing to do.  We have to sit down and honestly reflect on the situation then come up with a viable solution that creates the least amount of strife as possible. 

Many will spend countless hours deliberating how the decision will impact others, especially when there are children involved.  How will others react and what kind of emotional affect will our decisions have on others?  When there are children involved, we place great importance on their lives and their emotional stability.  It is equally important to look at how you are being affected too.  Many will put themselves last and this is commendable but not always in the best interest of those who are being impacted by the situation at hand.

You really have to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do.  You have to make sure you have carefully reviewed all possible alternatives and given the situation the attention it deserves.  After this, make an informed decision.  Are you truly happy?  You know you deserve to be happy?  It is okay to calculate yourself (your mental and physical health) into this equation.  How can you assist in making others happy when you are not happy yourself?  Are you creating more problems because you are not acting on life circumstances?  How are others being affected because of this situation?

Ask yourself if this situation going to change in the foreseeable future, or is there actually very little hope?  Are you committed to your decision, once you have made up your mind?  These life events can be very trying times and unfortunately no one can find a solution to your problems but you.  You have to be honest with yourself, as you truly cannot fool yourself.  Ultimately, you have to make a commitment, one way or another.  Make sure you have exhausted all avenues beforehand.  An early reaction is never a good one, unless of course there is violence or aggression involved.  Once a decision has been made, let it go and move on! 

You deserve happiness and it really is okay to think about yourself especially as a parent as your wellbeing affects vulnerable people.  There are no wrong decisions!  You are meant to follow the path you choose.  Just make sure that you take your time and allow time for potential challenges to change course for sometimes they do.  Be completely open and discuss what the problem is with the individual involved.  There are times when people are so wrapped up in their own lives that they honestly are not making these people aware of the impact they are having on others.  Many good relationships have been saved simply by talking things out.

If there truly is no resolution, then it’s time for you to make a move.  Make this move without regrets or shouldering blame.  In most cases, everyone involved assists in the creation of an issue and resolutions can only be found if all parties are willing to make concessions and accept responsibility.

Life is full of stumbling blocks and challenging conditions.  When we stand up for what is right, we gain strength and resilience and come to know ourselves better.  Believe in yourself and allow life and love to enter.  You deserve all the best life can offer.

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