THE ART OF FORGIVENESS

In times of utter bitterness and hurt how do we move forward and forgive?  How do we separate ourselves from our ego’s reaction?  Are we strong enough to overcome our ego’s response of hate and bitterness towards someone else due to their action? 

Regardless of the event that may have occurred, can you love yourself enough to forgive? 

Our growth is stagnated when we entertain hostile feelings of revenge and hate towards someone else.  Forgiveness is not an easy task, especially when these emotions surface from someone’s heinous actions.  Letting go and moving forward can be difficult as the mind relentlessly wants some type of justice.  Things may not seem fair but somehow we must learn to forgive even the most dreadful of actions.

Clutching to hate and wanting vengeance absolutely serves no other purpose than to emotionally tie us to the person we want to separate ourselves from.  The longer we hold onto hate and revenge, the higher the risk that we will develop physical disease.  We are crippling ourselves emotionally and stalling our spiritual development. 

How can we develop forgive when someone takes away something we treasure such as our resilience, our serenity or our hope?  There are many excuses for others to carry on in life with total disregard to others and their emotions.  Unfortunately, we have no control over this.  Other’s actions are their responsibility and their karmic lessons. 

To live your life in pursuit of so called justice and to be filled with hate and anger only serves to create depression, isolation, sorrow, resentment and the list goes on.  This is not living.  In this state of mind, you will never find solace, peace, growth and all those things needed to experience a fulfilling life.  To initiate letting go and forgiving is perhaps one of the hardest thing that you will have to do in our lives but holding on to grief and resentment is actually even harder.  By holding on, you state to this individual, “You have won.  I give you my life and my happiness.  You are allowed to walk with me and repeat this experience as long as I am going to hold on to your actions”.

 

By holding on, we continually relive the grief and torment.  Allow karma to serve its purpose and to teach the lessons it needs to.  Karma is the judge and the jury and does not need your help.

Forgiveness is not easy but essential.  Do not identify with the ego’s response.  Want to heal.  Allow love to grow even from of the darkest corners of your being and watch the repercussions from these actions.   THIS is the story waiting to be told.

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